I’ll be turning 28 in two months time and so far, I’d like to share what I have learned from adulting and this thing called life. This would be my first time ever to make a personal blog post here in my website. I have drafted most points at the bottom for more than a year now but never got to post it.
For years, I’ve been adulting and well, life’s not perfect. However, with all of life’s imperfections, you learn and you survive. I hope that you, dear reader, would find this useful. Feel free to like, share, and tell your friends about it. Here goes!
1.Make use of your time wisely.
Balance work and enjoyment. It’s not about working hard, it’s about working smart. So have some fun once in a while – go out on weekends, read a book, watch Netflix, or go alone on your favorite coffeeshop. It cuts the stresses out of life.
2. Find your passion.
If it inspires you, keep going. Honestly, I started my blog without any expectations in mind. I just did it because I wanted to. I’m not there yet and I know there are things I still have to improve, but at least, my posts are out there and it’s gaining audience on social media. In short, my passion took me somewhere. So whatever hidden talents or dream projects you may have, give it a try. I believe the universe really follows through if it’s meant for you.
3. Socialize and meet friends outside of your profession.
I’ve been exposed to a lot engineering friends during college and it makes me so happy being around them. But it came to a time in my life that I have to move back to my hometown after completing my studies and I felt like I was starting from scratch again. To be away from the people that I’ve spent a lot of time with was kind of a sepanx moment. Moving back in Iloilo opened a lot of doors for me when it comes to meeting new people with different perspective in life. My advice is to get out there and meet new people.
4. Learn how to manage your finances.
As much as I love to shop, there will come a time in your life that you have to learn how to save up and think of more ways to earn. If you are able to pay stuff in cold, hard cash, pay for it in that manner. At least you know you are actually able to afford what you spend on rather than charging them on your credit card.
5. Reward yourself once in a while.
After a full week of work or after a very long day, sometimes it’s good to indulge yourself with a treat to remind yourself that you had done a good job. Back in college, I usually rewarded myself with milktea before I go home. What’s your indulgence?
6. Adapt to the modern world.
In the age of technology and social media, it’s important to keep up with the latest happenings. Learn the latest apps/ softwares/ tech. It helps you grow and gain more knowledge. Feed that tech curiosity and install that photo editor or try that fitness app!
7. Keep yourself grounded.
I think you’re on good ground when you never let whatever achievement you have go to your head. I make it a point that I keep myself grounded that is, still being myself around the people that truly know me. It’s pretty humbling when you know where you came from and see how far you progressed, may it be big or small.
8. Dress up well.
I believe that when you dress up well, you carry even more confidence. Remember that how you carry yourself says a lot about your personality so try to dress up a little and look presentable. When you look good, it makes you feel good too.
9. Eat healthy and stay active.
Try to incorporate fruits and vegetables into your everyday meal. I’m on my late 20’s already and I already feel that my body would like to have nutrients that will compensate for the workload that I have. I was never a fan of breakfast but now, I try to eat breakfast to give me energy to start my day. Drinking vitamins would really help too. Eating a balanced diet and working out for me is a great tandem. Take some time to exercise at least 2-3 times a week. It doesn’t really matter where you do your workout, just as long as you sweat and maintain good form when working out.
10. Set your standards.
There were a lot of times that I had compromised my worth just to fit into someone’s life. It was so tiring that I really had enough of it. I am grateful that now, I have come to grow as a person who is more mature in handling these kinds of situations. As long as you know your value as a person, no one can ever break you because you do not want to settle for just any treatment from anyone. When efforts are not reciprocated, breathe, give yourself a break, and wait for someone deserving of that effort you give.
11. Take all the time need for you to be you again.
At some point in life we get fed up by things happening all around us. That’s the time we feel like going on a vacation, relaxing, disconnecting from our devices, and just disappearing for a while. Whatever activity that would help you find peace, do it. We all need some alone time to find peace and make us feel whole again. We recharge and we get back up again.
12. Praise when life is good. Keep on praising when life gets hard.
Sometimes, we tend to forget that we have God when we feel all the positivities around us but tend to call onto God when circumstances shake us to our core. It is important to include God on the stages we go through in life because He is right there with us, through the happy and rough situations. These hurdles are there to strengthen our faith in ourselves and our faith in God. Trials not only help us grow but it also humbles you that a greater God is backing us up. Whatever blessings you have in life, say a prayer of gratitude. Same goes when you find life challenging, say a prayer for strength.
13. Go in search for happiness.
A friend once told me that in life, what you should search for is happiness above all else because if you are happy, everything flows from it – peace, love, contentment, etc. So find your happiness and the rest will follow.
14. Let go of the things that you cannot control and let the universe do the work for you.
Let’s admit it, there are times that things don’t go our way even if we badly wanted it to. We force relationships, we push limits, and we try to control so much in life that it goes way out of hand. When you let go of the things that we worry about, our hopes and our expectations, that’s where it usually comes together. Trust the timing of your life and believe that there is something wonderful in store for you. As I said above, the universe follows through if it’s meant for you. Just let go.
So that’s it! I hope you handle whatever life throws you way as mere trials for you to be molded as the person you’re made to become. Goodluck and God speed!